I'm not in denial, I know I can be a bit negative at times, there I said it, so what? The bigger problem is not that I can be negative at times but that many here just get too wound up about it, they need to learn to deal with it and quit complaining every time somebody says something they don't agree with, I do it all the time.
Victor, most people don't mind when others disagree with them now and then. Trust me, I've had a few disagreements with people here - sometimes they make a grudge out of it, but more often they know it's not meant in a mean spirit and they and I both get over it and move on.
The problem is that you're almost universally negative, and people have had enough of it. You've gone past their tolerance level. I spoke with you about this before, but you ignored me after a while and look where it got you.
And even when I don't say something negative people are crapping on me. It's hard to be positive when everyone is always crapping on you no matter what you say or try. Even if I try, they still can't see past what i've said before in the past. But I will try to be better, here and on Kickstarter, in fact I might just stay away.
Staying away is your choice and you're free to make it. People are constantly crapping on you even on the off chance that you say something positive because you crap on EVERYTHING. At least you don't discriminate...
As far as the negativity is concerned, artists and designers have to learn to deal with it, it's a part of their life, not everyone is going to like or agree with how they designed something or with all their ideas, if they can't handle it then maybe they are in the wrong line of work.
I get negative now and then, especially when discussing a deck. And when the designer comes and sees my comments, often they will ask for more details about why. At that point, I provide a reasonably detailed analysis, better known as constructive criticism. In most cases, the designer is surprised - but more importantly, they understand it was never a personal attack and that it came from passion for the hobby rather than misanthropy.
In your case, we often hear criticism, complaints, whining, etc., but not much by way of constructive criticism. It makes your attacks seem more personal, regardless of your intent.
An even bigger problem is that many on the forums treat a few of the designers like kings and are afraid to speak up against them out of fear of getting crapped on. Stop treating these designers like they can do no wrong and stop justifying everything they do, no matter who they are or what they do. Just like you do all the time with the Blue Crown and others do with other designers and companies. For instance you constantly trying to justify their "prototype" decks despite everyone else ripping on them, why? Why not just admit it wasn't their best idea?
We never treat designers like they can do no wrong. Russ Kercheval and Adam Clarkson would be prime examples of that, and I can certainly name a few more if I check over the list of "successfully failed" Kickstarter projects. I've certainly complained about a few, that's for sure. One has even contacted me about discussing the situation! So no, they're not the unassailable gods you make them out to be.
And this "constant justification" you're talking about has been anything but constant for months! If you need to reach that far back to find an example, you're grasping for straws while sinking into the quicksand. I haven't written anything about that deck in over two months - and in that post, I even mentioned that I didn't care for the deck and thus didn't purchase one. I still don't own one and I'm not losing sleep over it. Mine was the next-to-last post, the last having been made on the 11th of April of this year. When a topic's so old you have to blow the dust off of it to read the title, you're probably reaching too far.
I know forums are privately owned, but it is pretty bad when the owner of a forum is strong armed into banning someone by a couple of mods, just because they don't like a person or don't agree with them, that to me is a problem. People shouldn't be banned just because you don't agree with them or they have their own opinions! And so far from what i've seen, the majority of the people over there have spoken favorably of me and voted against the ban. That, I believe, says a lot right there about how people feel about me.
...and none of that matters. The owner himself came here to explain to you why you were banned. But seriously, if his TOS is like ours and that of most websites, he can delete your posts or ban your account for pretty much no reason at all. It certainly wasn't some kind of racial discrimination, unless "Canadian" has now become a race. He listened to his staff and after trying to stand up for you, finally decided that enough was enough.
It's not much different from me contacting Tom Dawson and asking for something in particular to be done - I "run" the place and keep things flowing as best as I can, but it's his place, not mine. But if all of the moderators and I approached him not once but FOUR TIMES asking for the same thing, he's a wise enough man to realize we may have a point that he needs to listen to. In fact, it might not even take that long. He knows I read every single post that gets made here and that I'm not running this place as my personal fiefdom, because he also knows that what I do here I do for the pleasure of it and that I do my best to remain even-keeled.
Whether people here, or on the UC, like it or not, I have many supporters and many people appreciate my honest reviews and even my criticisms. I've saved some people some money on decks and helped others decide to get certain decks, thanks to my reviews.
Fantastic. I'm proud of you. You have nearly 4,800 YouTube subscribers and that's a great thing. I mentioned that building your name as your brand is very important.
It still doesn't change the fact that the mods and the owner at UC made the decision to ban you. In fact, that plus four quarters still adds up to only a buck.
Oh yeah, I also found out that the whole "shunning" thing appears to have been a hoax put together by someone in the card community, I just don't know who, but that's pretty low and drastic.
Seriously? Read what Mike Ratledge had to say and try to convince me... No one's kicked you off of Kickstarter, so the best they can do is ignore you, right? Given the circumstances, I'd rather like being ignored for a while if I were in your position.
I shouldn't have to get banned anywhere or move to other sites, I am a part of the playing card community and should be allowed to be here or there if I want, no matter what my opinions or ideas are. We should all be one big happy community, not fighting with one another. People on these forums need to stop complaining every time somebody says something they don't like and they need to stop acting like children.
And I apologize if I am a bit negative in this post, but when I feel i'm backed into a corner, I have to defend myself.
Victor, again, you're just not getting it. That one specific site decided they'd had enough of you and in essence told you to move on. I don't argue when similar events happen to me - I'm one of those people who doesn't want to stay where he's not wanted. I either move on or I persuade them to want me by making it clear there are benefits to be had with me around. That's a mature, grown-up response.
One forum is not the entire playing card community. We're not all fighting one another. It's you fighting a handful of people and trying to muster potential supporters by making the issue far larger than it really is. They're not complaining every time someone says something they don't like - they're complaining when YOU say something they don't like, because they're fed up with you and your attitude and you rarely seem to like anything. So in this case, it's you who is acting like a child, not anyone else.
I gave you the advice I gave you because I felt you needed it and I didn't think you're really so awful a person as some make you out to be, that if given a chance, you could have broken the cycle and started becoming a voice that people want to hear rather than a screech that people want to shut off. The advice still applies - ignore it at your own risk.
I'm giving you one last post to reply, then I'm locking this topic. Make it a good one.
Dude 1st impression are everything. You came off as a whiny ass bitch. You wont be able to fix that over night. People will continue to give you shit till it has been a long time since you were that whiny ass bitch. and don says positive things with blue crown because (and correct me if I am wrong) he is friends with them. I know I have seen him mention the less negative but how he and you would say something are completely different.
It's not simply that I'm friends with people at TBC and HOPC. It's that they do make some really good stuff. If I think they're putting something out that's total and utter crap, I'll say something about it - but I'll find a way to get the point across politely and respectfully to them.
John's pretty much on the mark with his statements. More good advice you shouldn't ignore.
Thanks I will keep trying to improve but maybe if you didn't have such an attitude about it it would help.
Holy crap - you STILL don't get it. It's YOU that has the attitude, Victor, not EVERYONE ELSE! We're giving you good advice to make your situation better, and we "have an attitude?"
Screw that. I'm locking the topic now - don't make a new one on this subject unless you want it deleted. This is finished, here and now. Do what you want, because I no longer care. I was trying to help you possibly more than anyone else on BOTH boards, yet you still want to piss and whine. My post would not have been this long if I didn't care about trying to assist you, but now, I see there's no convincing you. Victor is "right" and the entire rest of the community (and probably the world as well) is "wrong" in your eyes, and there's no changing that, so I formally give up and leave you to your own devices.
Best of luck to you in the future - goodbye.
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